Treat Me

Last year on the 24th October, I wrote a post for the Living with Bob blog.  Michelle hosted guest posts on her site to mark awareness month for Dysautonomia. It was the first post I wrote about my frustrations with a doctor. I usually get along great with doctors, but occasionally their pre-conceptions get in the way.  Sometimes it is their egos or their ignorance in the way.  This afternoon I saw a very clever and very personable immunologist who specialises in neuro-immunology.  I didn’t even know we had such a rare-feathered-fella in New Zealand.  But we do!

He took such a long history from me that I had to ask if I could lie my head down on his desk!  A few years ago I would have been too embarrassed to ask if I could do that.  But I’m a bit more vocal these days.  He was a very good doctor.  And he even unlaced one of my converse high tops and pulled it off my foot when I needed to get up on the table to be examined(!)  Far out.  Didn’t know that was included in the service!  One bloke on each foot, taking off my shoesies!

The news is that he wants to try me on a six month course of immune modulation therapy.   He is just getting all the paperwork in order and discussing it with his colleague.  He’ll get back to me.  I had to double check with my hubster as we left that he really did say that.  Yep, he really did.  I was amazed too, at the beginning of the consult, when he asked me why I was there, I explained that I have a list of possible causes and I can’t rest until I know I have checked them all out.  He thought that was “fair enough”. It amazes me that some doctors understand why we continue to search for answers and others don’t at all.  Then he went through a paper with me from one of the world’s best Autonomic Neurologists.  Steve Vernino.  He knew who Dr Vernino was (that’s a first)!

I think when I wrote a few weeks ago: ‘catch me I’m falling’… I got sent a few doctors to do just that.  I am so grateful.  For me, but also for others with Dysautonomia in New Zealand. If this story has a positive ending, it will raise awareness amongst the medical community and make a difference for how patients are treated here.

This is my piece from last year:

Sweet Thing


In the past couple of years, my care has been transferred from my Cardiologist, to the General Medicine department of our local hospital.  My General Physician is a specialist doctor who coordinates the other specialists who care for me and they all consult with him as the primary doctor who oversees my case.  In addition to the General Physican, I have seen a Neurologist, a Neural-Opthalmologist, a Gastroenterologist, a Cardiologist and a Urologist. They all see me through their out-patient clinics unless I happen to be admitted for something. I really like this model.

Until recently, my Main Doc was a really lovely, really clever, experienced physician who was involved, interested and not afraid to admit that he needed to find out more. He wasn’t threatened by me, or my lists, my folders or my frequent email attachments.  He wasn’t even threatened by my six foot frame and it’s wobbly instability.  He understood that I wasn’t trying to be an annoying patient.  I was just trying not to be a patient at all. He suspected that I have AAG.  Autoimmune Autonomic Ganglionopathy.   The idea is that the immune system has turned against the Autonomic Nervous System in error.  It begins to pick off autonomic ganglia, preventing the usual messages from getting through, throwing out homeostasis. And this thinking meant that he was open to the idea of my problems being treatable.  That concept, for me, for anyone facing a progressive illness, is the equivalent of being a kid in a candy store. Treat me!  It’s the nirvana of chronic illness. The delectable hope! Shiny, sweet gorgeousness!

But oh! There I was in the candy store, staring up at the jars, salivating. And it occurred to me that I couldn’t just buy what could make my dreams come true.  I didn’t have any currency. The benevolent gentleperson with all the buying power was about to leave the store.  And he did.  The hospital moved him into another department and transferred my care to a new General Physician. One who hadn’t gone through the lengthy discussions with me about the candy and the possibility that maybe, I’m worthy of having a bag of bulls-eyes (immune modulation therapy). My new Main Man prefers the sit-and-wait approach. Main-Squeeze and I at first, politely inferred; then, referred directly to the last doctor’s findings, suggested and finally pleaded for some more action, some attempt or nod towards trying.  He just took off his glasses, said we need to face some realities. Sat back and said that he would like to simply ‘watch’ my progression. Candy shop shut.

The research in this area shows that if indeed I have AAG, the nerve damage that continues to occur over time is unlikely to be able to be reversed.  So I don’t want to wait while he observes more progression.  I want to arrest the progression.  I need to, in point of fact.  Because, like all of my fellow sufferers, I have a life that I need to get back to. A husband who wants a partner in every sense of the word.  Children who need their Mum in ways and at times that I can’t always be there for them.  And a host of other brilliant things that are out of my reach with things the way they are.  Things that would have been, if I hadn’t got sick.  I’ve got some potential to fulfill.  And although the new Main Man doesn’t know it, I am worthy of the attempt.  Aren’t we all?  There aren’t very many of us.  It’s not like there’s going to be a mob looting that candy shop.  And we are very polite, on the whole.  Except for inside our imaginations, where occasionally, we slap people who don’t want to try to help.

I don’t have the antibodies which prove AAG.  In fact, 50% of AAG sufferers don’t.  But there is still a good chance that I would respond to immune modulation therapy.  So, I am standing in the candy store, alone.  Looking up at that candy.  Just wishing that this new doctor would come striding in and say “A bag of bulls-eyes for the little lady. Quick, now, don’t delay!  She needs them!” And maybe, you know, it could happen; he could treat me.


P.S The doctor who is helping me, knows about me because I kept pushing to see someone.  He’s the one who strode into that candy store on a wave of good connections.  Somebody knew somebody who might be able to help.  He rode in like a gunslinger from the wild west, a justice rider. And I can’t help but think, if I had left the store, or tired of asking for help, I would be back where I was, making no progress and suffering my slow decline. But I didn’t stop asking.  I didn’t stop pestering.

Is there someone you need to ask about something?  Don’t give up, don’t settle.  Maybe you were supposed to read this today.  It is exhausting keeping up the fight.  But life is too beautiful not to try.

9 thoughts on “Treat Me”

  1. Woo hoo! That’s great news. It makes such a difference when you feel a doctor really cares and genuinely does something (especially when they feel more can be done). I have recently had two consultants decide that two separate health issues of mine need further looking into, seeing as they’ve been going on for 10 years or so and I haven’t had proper referrals and investigation. I don’t know what the outcomes will be but it was such a relief not to get fobbed off yet again. So I can relate in a small way to how you are feeling.

    And I recently had a medical practitioner take my medical history down – took 2 hours!! He and I both were exhausted after all that. 🙂 And my health issues are nowhere near as debilitating and all-pervasive as yours.

    Feeling positive for you, Rachel!

    1. Silke I am so glad they are going to look after those issues for you. It’s common when you suffer from something chronic, for the other health issues to be put on the backburner. I’m just so glad they are bringing them forward and taking some action. It is exhausting giving a history isn’t it? I forget things so I take a cheat sheet with me now. Thanks for your comment Silke, It’s exciting, huh!

      1. It *is* exhausting – because one thing leads to another, and then “oh yeah, there’s this issue” and with questions more comes to mind. It’s not about being a hyprochondriac … more about, as I’ve learned by experience, that nothing happens in isolation in the body and even the smallest things can have a knock-on effect you don’t realise until you start digging.

  2. This is such brilliant news Rachel. I am sooooo pleased for you and I really hope that it proves to be the right candy for you. I must admit I get so angry at doctors who, to me, just are not interested, or who treat us like we don’t know anything. When Jordan started displaying behavioural issues, I was chastised for wanting to box and label him. I had quite a heated discussion with the psychiatrist about it being like Cancer. You have cancer (behavioural issue), but unless you know which type (ADHD, bipolar, autism), how on earth can you treat it effectively. He just looked at me and said “what a silly analogy”. Jord ended up being incorrectly diagnosed (in the UK) with ADHD for 6 years before a doctor here in Australia finally said, “My God, he is so classically autistic. You should sue for malpractice”. Jord was 12 and only then could our long journey to help Jordan live an independent life begin. It is late and he has missed out on such vital early interventions and yes, I am angry about that. So well done you for plugging away and my god I hope it works!!

    1. Far out, Sarah, what a journey. Jord is so lucky to have a mum like you advocating for him. Mum’s know best. I’m glad you kept plugging away at it. But yes, the frustrations can reach such heights when you are searching for help. I don’t know if it will be the right ‘candy’ or not. But either way, I’ll be able to cross some more stuff off my list and I feel less helpless just for taking a course of action. Fingers crossed!

  3. I am so happy for you Rach. I know what it’s like going to specialist after specialist and getting nowhere. I had 2 of my favorite doctors retire and that was hard. But your spirit is amazing and it inspires me to keep going. This little poem made me think of you for some reason.
    “She left pieces of her
    life behind her
    she went.

    It’s easier
    to feel the
    without them.
    She said.”
    Thanks for those sparkly pieces of you.

    1. That is beautiful. Sorry you are without two lovely doctors Barb. Good doctors should be exempt from aging, so we can enjoy their experience and help for longer! Keep going, one step in front of another. Just keep on keeping on! You are worth fighting for.

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