The Keeper

When he decides it is time to do something, he gets stuck in. And then he keeps on keeping on until it is done.

My hubster is one of those men who works in an office. His days are spent going from meeting to meeting and in between, plowing through the outstanding tasks at his desk. He’s employed a great team to work with, so at least there is a good measure of hilarity in their office banter. But it is a sedentary kind of occupation. Hard for a busy kind of guy.

Before he got saddled with kids and then, a sick wife (thank goodness I am not anymore!) he was all action stations. When we met, he spent most weekends out sailing, at the gym and in his workshop, building stuff.  Fixing things, tootu-ing (that’s kiwi for messing-about-with-intention).

So when my guy is on holidays, the way he winds down is to get busy. Productive. It’s weird, it is like the opposite to the rest of the world, who holiday on sun loungers, sipping cool drinks in the shade. My fella likes to get physical, out in the water or on a DIY project.  If he doesn’t complete something significant during his holidays, he feels like he’s wasted them (I know, right?!).

So, he decided it was time we updated our living room. We inherited a rather loud ‘feature’ wall of tangerine juxtaposed with maroon. I’ve always hated it! Of course, I had decided it was time we updated our living room a week before we moved into the house, eight years ago. But as with most of the practical tasks in this house, nothing happens until the hubster decides.

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And he did! It seemed like we got interrupted in the task constantly, but finally, last night, we finished. The final coat of paint went on the mantel and we were finished!  I can’t even tell you how happy it makes me. I keep standing in the doorway, just gazing at our lovely room.

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That man of mine installed new coving, skirtings and architraves. Built floating shelves, plastered and painted the ceilings and then all the rest, too. He had some help from me, but I was definitely his sidekick. I marvel at his skills. It’s rare, these days, for guys to know how to do all these things. I feel stupendously lucky! He used muscles he rarely uses anymore, and engaged a part of his brain that brings him satisfaction and respite. Sometimes, he groaned when he stretched his office body out at the end of the day. But most of the time, he grinned. He’s got a great grin, my hubster, among other things.

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As one of my friends said “he’s a keeper”!

Here are some more pictures.
Reckon I might keep him on. 😉

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The Reality Slap: Giveaway!

I’ve been banging on a lot lately about Mr Russ Harris.  His books were introduced to me by my Health Psychologist, Anna.  I have found his book to be easy-to-read, helpful and realistic.  Really practical.  And it is not just good for those of us with chronic illness.  It’s good for anyone who has been slapped by reality and is struggling to wrap their heads around it.  Maybe that’s you?  Maybe it is someone you know and love and you don’t know how to help them.  Russ knows.   Being a bloke, he is also a really valuable read for guys you might know who have been slapped around a bit by reality. He writes like man.  Straightforward, to the point and full of things you can actually do to make a difference.  He has suffered his own reality slap, so it’s not just rhetoric.  It’s relatable and incredibly useful, especially if their reality slap is coming to terms with a loved one’s diagnosis (how many of us know someone cracking that particular walnut)!

I am always on the lookout for giveaway possibilities.  I seriously love giving pressies, so I guess this is an extension of that.  It occured to me that I am not the only one that could benefit from The Reality Slap.  So I ordered two.  One for me, and maybe, one for you!  If you think you, or someone you know, could benefit from this book, why not enter?  Or feel free to share this giveaway with people you know who might need a chance to enter the comp.  There is a facebook share button below.

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To be in the competition, just make a comment, in around 25 words or less, below. You must use the words “reality slap” somewhere in your comment, by the end of Sunday 14 September, 2014 (NZ time). 


You can write in sentences, you can write poetry, you can use your words any way you like, but they must be your words.  Tell us how life has given you a reality slap, or tell us about someone who needs this book, or tell us why you would really love it.  You can click on the word ‘comments’ below to be taken to the comment field.
You don’t have to have Dysautonomia to enter.  We all get slapped by reality at some point.

Ts & Cs:
I will notify the winner by email, so you must include your own personal, valid email address to be eligible for winning, this won’t be visible on my blog, only I can see it.
I won’t be using email addresses for any purpose other than notifying the winner.
The prize is as stated and is the product pictured.  It is a brand new paperback copy of the book The Reality Slap: Finding Peace and Fulfilment When Life Hurts by Russ Harris.  Published by New Harbinger Publications.
For your safety, please don’t put your postal address in the comments, if you win I will email you for more details.
I am happy to post to anywhere, so don’t be shy.  Wherever you live, NZ Post can get it to you…

Although I am advertising this competition on my facebook page, I won’t be running it there.  So make sure your comment is entered below this post, in my blog commenting form, on this blog.  Not on facebook.  🙂

Good luck!

PS.  See that Dysautonomia Awareness Bracelet?  My order of bracelets for awareness month next month just arrived.  The winner of this competition will get the bracelet too!  Isn’t that rad!  Gotta be in it to win it!

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